There is a group of Mothers and other adult females that have managed to convince an equally growing number of young females that their entirety is to be measured by the value they can extract over the shortest period of time from all males.

Let's be clear about what we're witnessing. This isn't a condemnation of women's empowerment or a nostalgic plea for a return to some imagined golden age of patriarchy. The problem is far more specific, far more insidious, and far more recent.

The evidence is mounting that we are raising a generation of young women who have been systematically radicalized into viewing men not as potential partners, but as resources to be extracted from and discarded once the extraction is complete. -

The numbers are stark. A recent poll of young British women found that only half of women aged 18–30 hold a positive view of men and among women under 25, that figure drops to just over a third. Meanwhile, 72% of same-aged men still hold a positive view of women. This isn't a mutual breakdown, this is a one-sided cultural shift.

What's driving this? The "femosphere", the female equivalent of the manosphere has thrived largely unchecked, with influencers encouraging women to be "calculating in their interactions with men and to use them for their money. This content doesn't just suggest transactional relationships; it actively promotes a worldview where men exist to serve women's needs and ambitions, and nothing more.

The mothers and adult women shaping this generation aren't necessarily doing so with malice. Research on mother-daughter relationships shows that mothers often promote autonomy, respect, and self-worth in their daughters. But these well-intentioned messages become weaponized when filtered through social media echo chambers that radicalize them into hostility. What begins as healthy self-respect ends as outright contempt.

A study of single heterosexual women found that while nearly three-quarters initially sought marriage and family, many eventually abandoned these goals entirely, not because they didn't want relationships but because they viewed relationships as inherently unequal and risky. The strategy becomes: extract what you can and walk away.

Consider the cultural normalization.

When pop star Sabrina Carpenter "began killing men in her music videos, this further solidified her popularity instead of ending her career," while a male musician doing the same to women would face immediate condemnation. This double standard doesn't go unnoticed by young men, who see their struggles dismissed while women's grievances are amplified.

The result is a dating market where women are told they deserve everything and owe nothing, while men are told they must provide everything and deserve nothing. Young men are increasingly aggrieved and understandably so. They're being treated as disposable accessories. valued only for what they can provide, never for who they are. This isn't about blaming women or denying their legitimate grievances. The historical reality of women's economic dependence on marriage was real, and its legacy deserves acknowledgment. But we've swung from one extreme to another. From "marriage as economic necessity" to "men as economic resource." From "women need men to survive" to "men exist to serve women's needs."

The tragedy is that many young women do still want marriage and family. Olivia Rodrigo, a Gen Z icon, captures this perfectly: she dismisses marriage as irrelevant while simultaneously declaring "I want to be a mom more than anything." The contradiction isn't hers alone, it's cultural. She wants the destination but has been taught to despise the vehicle.

This is what happens when we teach young women that men are the problem rather than potential partners. They pursue relationships defensively, transactionally, always waiting to be disappointed. And when they inevitably find disappointment, because no human can live up to that standard, the narrative confirms what they were taught all along.

The future of marriage isn't dead. But it's on life support, sustained only by the deep human need for connection that no amount of radicalization can fully extinguish. The question is whether we'll pull the plug ourselves, or whether we'll finally acknowledge what we're doing to an entire generation and start teaching something different.

The Historical Destructiveness of Male Violence Against Women Continues at an Alarming Rate—This Is a HUGE Problem

The fuel: 
women holding children as weapons of war, denying access to fathers, using children as bait when fishing for larger payouts or better settlements, has become the gunpowder in the modern war of DEATH BEFORE MARRIAGE.

Yes, you heard that correctly. Ask any group of ten singles females or males and you will find that the larger percentage are now practicing DBM as their new lifestyle. The pendulum has swung from Patriarchal to Matriarchal, and now to D.B. Marchal. The fault line of this new state falls squarely on poor parental guidance by mothers.

Let's hold two truths simultaneously, because this is where honest conversation lives.

Truth One: 
Male violence against women is real, ongoing and unacceptable. The statistics are damning. One in three women worldwide experience physical or sexual violence in their lifetime. Intimate partner violence remains the leading cause of homicide for women globally. This isn't ancient history, this is now. Any discussion of modern relationships that minimizes or dismisses this reality is not just dishonest, it's dangerous.

Truth Two: 
A growing number of women have weaponized the legitimate grievances of that violence to justify a broader war against men as a category. And they're using the most vulnerable targets available: their own children.

The Weaponization of Children

Family court systems have become battlegrounds where children are not protected but used. Parental alienation, where one parent systematically poisons a child's relationship with the other parent, is now recognized as a form of child abuse. Yet it's practiced with impunity, overwhelmingly by mothers against fathers, in jurisdictions that have swung so far toward "protecting mothers" that they've stopped protecting anyone else.

Consider the data: In contested custody cases where mothers allege abuse, studies show that false allegations occur in approximately 2-10% of cases. That number is small enough to dismiss, until you realize that even 2% represents thousands of children deliberately separated from loving fathers, and thousands of fathers systematically destroyed by accusations that were never true.

The system has created perverse incentives. The parent who controls access to the children controls the narrative. The parent who makes the most dramatic allegations often gains the most favorable outcomes. The parent who can afford better lawyers or who receives state-funded legal aid while the other cannot win by attrition.

And what are children learning? That Dad is dangerous. That Dad abandoned them. That Dad didn't fight hard enough. Meanwhile, the reality is often that Dad fought until he couldn't afford to fight anymore, or until the system ground him down to nothing.

DBM: Death Before Marriage

This is the logical conclusion of a generation raised on war narratives rather than partnership narratives. When you teach young women that all men are potential predators, you create a defensive posture that makes genuine intimacy impossible. When you teach young men that they're inherently guilty and must prove their innocence in every interaction, you create men who either grovel or retreat. When you teach both that marriage is a battlefield rather than a partnership, they stop believing in the possibility of peace.

DBM isn't a rational choice...
it's a trauma response. It's the collective nervous system of a generation that has been taught to see the opposite sex as the enemy rather than the complement. Young people aren't choosing celibacy or transactional relationships because they've calculated the odds; they're doing it because they've been radicalized.

The Role of Mothers
Here's where this becomes uncomfortable.

The women who shaped this generation, mothers, aunts, teachers, influencers, were themselves shaped by a legitimate feminist movement that exposed real injustices. They passed down survival strategies that made sense in their context:

• "Never depend on a man."

• "Always have your own money."

• "Protect yourself first."

• "Trust no one."

But survival strategies become self-destructive when the threat they're responding to no longer applies in the same way. A generation of mothers who survived patriarchy taught their daughters to survive patriarchy but they forgot to teach them how to partner with men who aren't their enemies.

This isn't blame. This is observation. You can't warn someone about every predator they might encounter without also teaching them to see predators everywhere. You can't protect someone from every potential betrayal without teaching them to expect betrayal from everyone. You can't raise a generation of women who are constantly scanning for threat and then wonder why they can't relax into love.

The Pendulum

Patriarchy taught women they were property.
Feminism taught women they were equal.
Modern radicalism is teaching women they are superior .....

...and that superiority comes with the right to extract, discard, and destroy.

The pendulum has swung past equality and into dominance. DBM is what happens when a generation of young people has inherited a war they didn't start, is being asked to fight battles that don't belong to them, and is watching their parents model everything except what a healthy partnership looks like. The fault line isn't motherhood itself. It's the weaponization of motherhood. It's using children as leverage. It's teaching daughters that men are resources rather than human beings. It's raising sons with shame instead of purpose.

What Comes Next

If we're honest, we'll acknowledge that neither side has clean hands.

Men have created real harm. Women have created real harm. Children are caught in the middle of a war that adults have been too cowardly to stop. And the biggest casualty? The possibility of something better. Young people aren't rejecting marriage because they've found something better. They're rejecting it because they've been convinced that anything is better than being trapped in a war zone. They're choosing isolation over abuse, transactional relationships over vulnerability, and checked-out celibacy over the risk of being destroyed.

DBM isn't a victory for anyone. It's a surrender.

And the adults who raised them, mothers, fathers, teachers, influencers, have a lot to answer for.

The question isn't whether marriage is dead.
The question is whether we're willing to admit we killed it and whether we have the courage to bring it back to life.

Bibliography (Concise)

Male Violence Against Women

WHO (2023) — Nearly 1 in 3 women worldwide (32%) have experienced physical and/or sexual violence by an intimate partner or non-partner.

UNODC & UN Women (2025) — Approximately 50,000 women killed by intimate partners or family members in 2024—137 per day. Sixty percent of all women killed globally are murdered by someone close to them.

GBD 2023 Study, University of Oxford — IPV ranks as the fourth leading risk factor for disease burden among women aged 15-49 globally.

Parental Alienation & Weaponization of Children

Todd Peterson Testimony, North Dakota Legislature (2025) — Alienation becomes increasingly likely once a child's time with one parent drops below 40%; at 50/50 shared parenting, alienation is "nearly impossible." 63% of teenagers who die by suicide come from single-parent or majority-parent homes.

Colorado Legislative Summary — Mothers and fathers engage in alienating behaviors at nearly equal rates. 47% of moderately to severely alienated parents have contemplated suicide; 23% reported suicide attempts—a 288× increased risk over the general population.

Dreyfus, ProPublica (2023) — Research shows that when mothers allege abuse and fathers respond with claims of parental alienation, it roughly doubles a woman's chances of losing custody.

APSAC (2026) — "Filicides by parents have followed some court-ordered contacts of children with divorced parents whom the children feared and rejected."

Femosphere & Gen Z Gender Divide

Kay, Dr. Jilly, BBC Radio 4 (2026) — Coined "femosphere." Discusses how algorithms radicalize young women against men as a category.

Lawford, New Statesman (2025) — Explores Gen Z gender divide, radicalization through TikTok, and social media environments that "reward grievance, identity reinforcement, and moral certainty over nuance."

Leidig, Prospect Magazine (2024) — Nearly 1 in 10 women aged 16-29 in the UK agree "feminism has done more harm than good."

IfaK Trend Research (2026) — Confirms that "through regular consumption of content, the probability of influencing behavior and thinking is increased."

Deseret News (2025) — Quotes Valerie Hudson, Texas A&M: "Unless men and women can hammer out a rough modus vivendi, there literally will not be a future."

Additional

Fidler & Bala (2010) — 11-15% of all divorces involving children include parental alienation issues.

The Nacol Law Firm (2014) — One in five parents surveyed stated their primary objective during divorce was to make the experience unpleasant for their former spouse.